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THE RIGHTS AND STATUS OF PARENTS IN ISLAM

Our parents have been with us throughout most of our lives, teaching us and being mentors for us. In Islam, honouring and 
respecting one’s parents is not something to be done once a year, rather, they should be honoured and respected every single day. the status of parents in Islam is very high. We as a Muslim should give respect and love to our parents. Parents are to be treated well at all times this is a virtuous kind of act in the sight of Allah Subhan watala. Parents and children in Islam are connected together by mutual obligations. 

Allah subhanwaltalla says in Holy Quran: “…No mother should be harmed through her child and no father through his 
child…” (Quran 2: 233). 

From this verse of Holy Quran, we can conclude that Quran has made it obligatory for the child to treat his parents with all mercy and and grace. 

And in another aayah of holy quran allah subhanwatala says that…. 
And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them 
reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word..surah al asra (17)…aayat 23 

In a hadith reported by Abu Huraira, we learn that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

Verily, Allah made the creation and when he finished, the womb said: At this place, I seek refuge in you from those who sever me. Allah said: Are you not pleased that I keep good relations with those who are good to you and I will cut off whoever severs relations with you? The womb said: Yes, my Lord. Allah said: Then it is for you.[Ṣaḥih Bukhari 5641, Ṣaḥiḥ Muslim 2554]

This teaches us that Allah SWT will maintain good relations with those who are good to their families and he will cut off from those who cut off from their families. It also shows us that in Islam, honouring and respecting one’s parents is of utmost importance. However, unfortunately, most us youth today do not treat their parents with the respect they deserve. 

Nowadays, we yell and fight with our parents incessantly, often over 
insignificant issues and topics. It is easy for us to spend hours online or hanging out with our friends, but we cannot stand 
spending even a second in the presence of a parent. 

As we age, our parents grow older as well, limiting the time that we have left to spend in their company. In some cases, when parents are old, they are pushed aside and end up living in nursing homes or homeless shelters. This is very disrespectful to our parents. This level of carelessness towards one’s parents is forbidden in Islam. Together, we should all strive to spend time with our parents and push towards growing closer as a family and learning to love one another. 

As I have also mentioned above this aayah which Allah subhanwatala mentioned in the Quran: “Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to your parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour” (17:23). The understanding of this verse is that we should express kindness to our parents and speak to them in a respectful and soft manner. The Arabic word mentioned in the verse for disrespectful or aggressive speech is “uff”, which shows that even a simple groan could fall under the category of 'disrespectful or aggressive speech’. And so, Allah has commanded us to address our parents with high respect and deference

Islam, our parents are obligated to raise us and provide for us. At the very least, we should try to make up for their hard work by giving them a small gift time to time or a dua that may bring a smile to their faces. Small, kind actions are greatly appreciated by parents and remind them of the wonderful advantages of raising a respectful child.

It is obligatory no for only (Muslims) but for non mulims also to show the unconditional kindness, respect, and obedience to their parents. Just like it is beyond our means to fulfill the rights of Allah (SWT) and to thank Him for all His rewards in their integrity, similarly, we can never thank our parents adequately for their efforts which they have done for us. The only thing that we can do is to acknowledge our shortcomings and submit ourselves, in obedience and loyalty, before our parents. In Holy Quran, Allah Almighty says: “And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final goal.” (Quran, 31:14) Every Muslim must show kindness and mercy to his parents throughout their lives. It is obligatory on children to show love, respect, and gratitude to their parents. Always speaks to parents politely and respectfully. Our Parents as a team provided for all our needs: Physical, Educational, Psychological, and in many instances, Religious, Moral, and Spiritual. It becomes obligatory 
for us to show the utmost Kindness, Respect, and Obedience to our Parents.

The Quranic commandments and the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (SAW) guide us in this matter of respecting parents 
with love, respect, and kindness.

In Holy Quran respect of parents is mentioned about eleven times, Allah Almighty has mentioned in every instance to recognize and to appreciate love and care that your parents gave to you. Regarding this Allah says in Holy Quran“ And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents…” (Quran 29:8 & 46:15)

A person once approached the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family) and said: “I have an old father and mother, who due to their attachment towards me, are not keen for me to go to Jihad”. Hearing this, the Noble Prophet (peace be upon him 
and his family) said: 

“(If such is the case then) Stay with your parents for, by the One in whose control lies my soul, their attachment of one day and one night to you is better than one year of Jihad.”These lines taught us that if we spend time and service well to our parents that is also a jihad 

The children must pray for parents saying, as Allah Almighty teaches us in the verse:”…My Lord and Sustainer! Be kind and have mercy on them as they cherished, nurtured and sustained me in childhood.” (Quran 17:24). From this verse, we came to know that must continue praying for parents even after they die. Such prayer will be regarded as a continuous charity as the Prophet (SAW), told us. As being grateful to Allah Almighty is a form of worship which earns divine rewards, it can, therefore, be said that being grateful to one’s parents also earns divine rewards. 
There are some traditions of Prophet Muhammad (SAW) about treatment with parents in the best way are mentioned below:

1.If someone is disrespectful and rude towards his parents, hurt them by saying insulting remarks or cause them grief or misery in any manner, then he shall find his place in Hell. Once someone asked the Holy Prophet (SAW): “What right does parents have over their children?” He answered: “They are your heaven and hell.” (Ibn Majah).

So dear brothers and sisters if you want to that your place in aakhirah should be janah then you should respect your parents it 
will also make your duniya better. 
2.Our duties to our parents extend even after their death. One of the best ways to honor our parents when they are gone is by being kind to their friends. Holy Prophet (SAW) said about it: “The best act of righteousness is that a man should maintain good relations with his father’s loved ones.” (Sahih Muslim)

3.In another Hadith Holy Prophet (SAW) said: “No child can compensate his father unless he finds him as a slave, buys him, and sets him free.” (Sahih Muslim)

4.The Prophet (SAW) placed kindness and respect towards parents just after the prayer offered on time as the prayer is the 
base of Islam. ‘Abdullah Ibn Masood, said: “I asked the Prophet (SAW) which deed is most liked by Allah. He said: ‘Prayer offered on time.’I asked him: ‘Then what? He (SAW) said: ‘Kindness and respect towards parents.’…” (Al-Bukhari) 
 
The Holy Prophet (S) says:


“Beware! Abstain from angering the parents. The fragrance of Paradise is perceived even at a distance of a thousand years, but those who are disobedient to parents and those who cut off ties with relatives will not be able to smell it.”

The Holy Prophet (S) also said. 

“One who displeases the parents, (it is as if) he has displeased Allah. One who angers both his parents (it is as if) he has angered
Allah.”

Elsewhere, it is mentioned, 

“One who hurts his parents, hurts me and one who hurts me has hurt Allah. And the one who hurts Allah is accursed.”
 
Mustadrak ul-Wasa’il 

The Prophet (S) has also stated:

“Allah will not speak to Three kinds of people on the Day of qayamah . Neither will He have mercy upon them, nor will He 
purify their sins. There is for them a horrible chastisement. The Three types of people are the believers in destiny, the drunkards and those who disobeyed their parents.”

Let us pray to Allah (SWT) that we do our best to respect our parents, honor them, be kind to them, and please them so that 
we may gain the love of Allah Almighty. May Allah (SWT) grant us the Divine success that we may come be regarded amongst those who have been good towards their parents.our parents are 
obligated to raise us and provide for us. At the very least, we should try to make up for their hard work by giving them a small 
gift time to time or a dua that may bring asmile to their faces. Small, kind actions are greatly appreciated by parents and remind them of the wonderful advantages of raising a respectful child. May also Almighty Allah guide us to be respectful, loving and kind to our parents and so that we always stay humble and respectful regardless of the power, wealth, position and influence we may possess. Ameen!

Writer :sideeqi naseer 
M.sc botany jiwaji university gwalior ( mp) 
Email. Sideeqinaseer13446@gmail.com




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